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From which side does your body speak?

By the age of five we have settled down to becoming right or left handed. Nobody yet knows why. About 10% of the world’s population are left-handed. Whether you are right-handed or left-handed it is unlikely you are exclusively either. The language your body speaks may have a left or a right bias, but just how left-bodied or right-bodied are you? Answer the questions below and find out your action bias.

You can confirm your bias by taking measurements on the left and right sides of your body. The side used more often tends to develop more muscles and thus be larger.

Did you know that you have a dominant eye?

You can find out which eye is more dominant by raising your thumb at arm’s length and covering a spot across the other side of the room with it. Close first one eye and then the other. When your dominant eye is the one that is open, your thumb will still be covering the spot. When your less dominant eye is open, the spot will be at one side of your thumb.

How much do you know about body language?

No matter what we say to each other in conversation our bodies send very clear messages. The way we sit or stand, the expressions on our faces and the gestures we make are mostly quite unconscious, but other people respond to them. If our words and our body language match, we feel comfortable in conversation.

Body Language - What are we saying?

We are at an interview, we lean forward, poised on the edge of the chair, feet crossed, hands clasped comfortably in front of us. What are we saying? "We’re listening, paying attention, we’re interested in what is being said. We are comfortable and will add carefully thought out comments to the interview."

We are at the same interview, we sit back, cross our arms in front of us, stretch our legs out and wait for the interview to begin. What are we saying? " We don’t need to be here, we already know more than you do, and you probably won’t add any thing of value to the meeting."

Body language is very important, paying attention to our actions and the way we give off non-verbal signals is as important as what we say. A few of the following signals are important:

"MUST LEARNS" in the business of communicating:

The scenario - an interview in a prospect’s office

Eyes - are they directed towards you, do they meet yours on a regular basis?
Head - is it tilted towards you?
Arms - are they crossed or uncrossed?
Hands - clasped, comfortably visible, or hiding behind something?
Feet - are they crossed, tucked under the chair, or stretched out in front of you?
Body - still and relaxed or agitated and active?

The scenario - a networking function at a stand up affair

Eyes - in contact with yours or darting all over the room?
Head - tilted towards you or swiveling from side to side?
Arms - on you, around you, or comfortably relaxed?
Hands - did they shake? What did the handshake say? Firm, limp?
Feet - shuffling, firmly placed?
Body - standing too close, too far away, just right? Learning towards you, away from you?

By learning to read the body language of others, every contact is more profitable.By understanding your own body language, you learn to put more non verbal positive messages into your communications.

A detailed study is available on non verbal communications. For more information contact us at 905-337-9578.

Observe yourself in action

Decide which side you use most often in reply to each of the following questions. If the left side put L in the left hand side of the page, if right side put R in the right-hand side of the page.

  • Fold your arms. Which arm is on top?
  • Which hand do you use for writing?
  • Which hand do you use to scratch when the middle of your back itches?
  • Tilt your head sideways without moving your shoulders; which shoulder is your head closer to?
  • Clasp your hands together; which thumb is on top?
  • Stand on one leg; which leg did you stand on?
  • When you cross your legs, which leg is on top?
  • Which hand is on top when you clap your hands?
  • When lying in bed, on which side do your turn first?
  • If you suck your thumb, which one do you suck?
  • Look in a mirror. Which shoulder is higher, if either?
  • Which eye is higher, if either?
  • On which side of your head does your hair part naturally?
  • If you can’t hear something, which hand do you use to cup round your ear?
  • Which leg do you prefer for kicking a ball?
  • Which hand do you prefer for throwing a ball?
  • In which hand do you carry the heavier bag when carrying two bags at once?
  • Which shoe do you put on first when dressing?
  • Which foot steps first when going upstairs?
  • Imagine you are winking at someone; which eye winks most easily?

Multiply your score by 5. If your higher score was RIGHT 12 (5 x 12) gives you a 60% bias to the right. If anyone asks you can say "I have a.... % action bias to the......


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