How to Become a Winner

By Donna Messer




We hear success stories from everywhere – and in most cases we tend to think “Lucky Devil” then we wonder why we don’t have whatever it takes to become a winner.

Below I share the secret of becoming a winner. It’s not rocket science, it’s not about education – it’s about opportunity! 

The dictionary describes the meaning of the word opportunity as – “a situation or condition favorable for attainment of a goal.” Maximizing your opportunity is part of the secret to success when it comes to being a winner!

Everyday we meet new people – rich and poor, old and young, educated and still learning, but in every case, these people we meet could provide us with a winning opportunity.  According to all the experts winning is nothing more than an attitude. You may be doing exactly the same things as the person next to you, but they win and you don’t – and the difference is attitude! .

What’s needed to maximize opportunities and find and maintain a winning attitude?

Take it One Day at a time

Whatever your goal is, whatever you want to accomplish don’t let yourself be overwhelmed. Make the goal possible and short term so that you can measure your results. Your long-term vision should incorporate all of those your short-term goals you set for yourself. If you can measure each small step you will be amazed at how quickly those long-term goals are realized. Goals are just dreams with a destination. Believe it and you can achieve it. Set a series of short-term goals, and watch the magic happen. Winners begin with small steps working their way towards that bigger reward.
What can you accomplish today that will take you towards your long-term vision?

Never stop learning 

Keep on moving forward, whenever you find a detour on the road to your destination, get a new roadmap, or ask directions from someone who has already traveled your road. Don’t get discouraged and never give up. You never know how close you are to the breakthrough. Your next move, the next day may be the one that will transform your destiny. Try using a coach as your guide on this journey of discovery – often times it’s easier when you have another perspective and a cheerleader.

Use the Right Tools

Are you using the right tools to achieve those goals you’ve set for yourself? Compare your objectives to those of an Olympic Athlete, do you have all the abilities and training necessary to win the Gold in your version of the Olympics? I you want to become a success, you need to do your due diligence in studying the best marketing strategies, getting niche products, and consistently applying what you’ve learned. “Get rich quick” schemes come about only with hard work and consistent strategic effort!

Look Forward, Not Back

The past is only good for learning what not to do, or applying the techniques that winners have developed to bring about success. Don’t dwell on your past failures and mistakes. The time for you is now. Move forward toward your dreams one step at a time, monitoring and measuring your success. Celebrate each small victory, and realize that the journey of a lifetime begins with a single step.

Don’t Hold Grudges – Be Forgiving

What does forgiveness have to do with winning? Negative feelings just hold you back. Get rid of all the negative energy and bad feelings against those who have hurt you.  Holding on to past hurts will hold you back when it comes to achieving those goals. Let go; move on and prove to yourself that you can do it. Remember you’re achieving those goals for yourself, not others. It’s time to put yourself first – and enjoy what you can accomplish for you. It’s not selfish to want something for yourself, what’s unforgivable is if you don’t ever try for it!

Get an Attitude of Gratitude

Develop a habit of thankfulness. Show gratitude to those who help you along the way. Take a few moments every now and then to reflect on all the good things you have in life. Include your family, friends, education, and talents. Put your thanks in writing – for yourself and for others – it’s part of your vision and you need to see who has been instrumental in helping you achieve your goals.

Be Inspired – Look for Inspiration Everywhere

Have a daily quiet time with yourself. Look for inspiration wherever you can find it. Read books about people who have a positive attitude – for themselves and for others. Go for walks and commune with nature.  If you are spiritual, take the time to reflect on what it means to you and the goals you set for yourself. The more you are attuned to your hopes, dreams and goals, the more you will achieve. Whenever you get to a point where you think you can’t go any further, get an attitude of gratitude. Seek out someone you know who has a winning attitude and ask form a little inspiration..

Expectancy – Believe and You Will Achieve

Once you have the vision on which path to follow to your success; then expect great results! Offer thanks to whatever higher power you believe in for your success. Even before you see it! You have been given the vision, the talent and the drive to follow your dreams, believe that your higher power will see you through to a successful ending.

Write down your vision, paste it on the wall in front of you, and speak it out loud. Believe and you will achieve.

“Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”

Donna Messer is an author, speaker and trainer. She is a motivator who truly walks her talk. She believes in the “Power of Positive Linking”- providing you with the connections you need to succeed. For more information on How to Become a Winner – go to or call 905-337-9578

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